Happy Father’s Day

By Ashley Leis

June 1st, 2009

Within this industry there is a lot of generational heritage and in most situations, it comes with an enormous sense of pride. Whether that pride can be found in a small five-fleet company with two brothers carrying on their father’s local supply route, or in a nationwide, 5,000-plus-fleet company with a great-grandson at the helm of the company, both seem determined to ensure the family legacy prospers.

This month, we pay homage to fathers. It seems sacrifice comes hand-in-hand with parenting and what is endured for the betterment of family. Our cover story features Dick Hoyt and his son Rick. It is a story of inspiration, of strength and of delivering their message “You can.” Beyond their 1,000-plus athletic events, it is a story of a father raising his son like any other child. Dick Hoyt gives his son every opportunity to live a full and complete life beyond the limitations of his disabilities.

During the past few weeks, I’ve had time to ponder my own upbringing. Coming from a family of five children, there was often the occasional scraps, fistfights or backyard brawls. From doing chores, I know every blade of grass in our steep yard, went through sponges washing the family cars and can still hear my father’s voice, “wear the right shoes, dress appropriately and do [my] homework.” The sting of various punishments for different “infringements” still lingers mentally and although I pleaded my innocence, somehow my dad always knew when the truth was being told and could see through the fibs. It was an upbringing of many challenges and obstacles, but also coupled with reward and love.

The way I see it, a person is a product of the way he or she was raised. I’ve never been in trouble with the law and consider myself successful to the point where I don’t feel as though I’ve missed out on anything. I’m not ashamed of different aspects of my life nor do I feel like I’m “owed” anything. I have a good work ethic, treat people with kindness and feel respected by those who have significant meaning in my life. For that, I give credit to my parents and my father’s guidance, direction and love. I’m a pretty lucky guy.

When considering your upbringing, I would ask, “Would you do it the same way?” It is difficult for me to say for sure since I’m not a parent and my nieces and nephews must suffer through my occasional practice sessions. However, yes, I plan on using my upbringing as a springboard with just a few minor adjustments here and there, considering the long time lapse from when I was an adolescent. There would also be the obligatory consideration to environment changes and outside influences.

I’m saddened when I hear of broken homes, and I become irate at abusive parenting. These are lessons for us to cherish moments with loved ones and build on what is positive. While no 18-wheeler has been passed to me from my father, there is still plenty that has been left for me to pass on to future generations: values, morals, work ethic and the importance of family. I’ll take that legacy any day.